We’ll this week has definitely been a test of my communication skills and my listening skills. And what I’ve learned about people is that no one likes conflict. Right? We’ll do almost anything to stray away from the word. However, sometimes you have to deal with it.
Here are some tips when addressing an issue that is bothering you.
1) Address the issue immediately with the person in conflict with you. Don’t let it simmer. I had an individual that didn’t address an issue for over three weeks that was bothering her. Why? Because this individual left a note on my desk that wasn’t visible to me until yesterday. I simply didn’t see her note to meet. So, be persistent as well, and talk to the person face to face. Why wait until the water is boiling, don’t even let it get that far.
2) Listen. Upon addressing the issue, remember there are always two sides to each story, so listen to the other side, so that you can at least understand where the other person is coming from. Gaining a true understanding of the situation, will at least help you to understand why.
3) Compromise. Think about the situation, and come up with a plan that both of you can agree upon. Sometimes writing down pros and cons will help with a compromise and your thoughts. And remember, a compromise is not one sided, it means giving up something on each side.
So next time you have a conflict follow these simple tips, and don’t let the conflict boil over. It’s not worth it, remember, its only water.